Dealing with sadness

121353845_10157648314158479_5768679465473207371_nI'm passing this on, as it might encourage people that it's ok to get help to deal with things. I found it on The Facebook, but not everyone has access to that.

Many people have difficulty dealing effectively with sadness in their life, more so in these stressful times. And left as-is for too long, it can drag one into depths that bring things to a stop. Yes, you can feel sad. Yes, you can - and should - seek help.

Most people do have friends and family and therapists and ministers available, but if they are not being open with those resources, or themselves, little progress can be made. Maybe this has been a lifelong pattern with them too. Maybe they see it as a 'competition', as Piglet suggests. Maybe it's a reluctance to face themselves, maybe it's pride, maybe they like the attention it brings - I don't know. Hopefully, this will give them a new perspective.

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Going through the stages, the moods.

Well, today my mood about moving to a new place is one of occasional excitement. Defcon 1.5?

When I got my eviction notice August 19th my reaction/mood was of surprise, soon followed by anger, of Defcon 5. Seven years as a more than ideal tenant, and I'm out! Just like the previous place had turfed me after 3 years. But I added some understanding to my mood, as in both cases it was the landlord or family moving in, which is allowed. In this case, he and his girlfriend were both facing a winter working from home in a small one-bedroom apartment. Okay, I got it, but my next reaction was still one of panic.

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We are a social animal. Some more so than others, but we prefer groups, we like physical contact.

COVID changed that, hopefully not permanently though. I do wonder what socializing will be like a year from now - I assume we'll all be vaccinated and safe by then. Will we slowly emerge out of our burrows, blinking in the light, reluctant to approach each other? Or will we act like one big happy family, with big goofy grins, hugging friends and strangers with abandon?

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On the effects of long term but minor stresses

File-20180824-149490-xk7xk7I posted this on The Facebook a few days ago. I got some good feedback, so I thought I'd expand it a bit. Instead of packing boxes ;-)
I've had some new stressors lately, and was surprised at how much they affected me. 
Ten years ago I decided to sell my house, downsize, and move to the Wellington West area. I found a nice two bedroom place, got rid of a lot of stuff, and moved. Seven years ago my landlord announced his daughter wanted my apartment, so I found a place, packed up again, and moved. I don't recall either event being that stressful or traumatic.
This summer my landlord announced he wanted my apartment for himself, so I had to find a place and coordinate a move. I found this more stressful than it really should have been, given my history and abilities.

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